Posted by: charityliz | February 7, 2012

Single&Thriving: Lesson 3

Lesson 3: Girls Nights – the ultimate perk

Yeah, I’m going there. (And for the guys that read my blog, consider yourself warned and I won’t be offended if you sit this one out)

I realize that having a Girls Night seems like the most cliché antidote to being single…but I’d like to remind you that nobody needs an antidote when being single is not a sickness or some kind of spell! Instead, I would say that Girls Nights are one of the best perks to thriving as a single gal!

I’m tellin’ ya – there’s nothing quite like throwing on a cute outfit and meeting up with the usual gang of girls after a hard day at work—just because we can and we will! We pick out a fun new place to eat, order some yummy food and maybe a glass of wine or beer —of course, chatting it up the whole time. And then we top it all off by catching up on some of the best T-Vo has to offer (current picks: New Girl, Modern Family, Happy Endings)

Really, there’s nothing quite like it. And somehow in the midst of something that seems to barely skim the surface of meaningful social connection, we manage to dig deep into the sweet bonds of friendship.  It’s funny what can come out of a random conversation that begins with the latest movie, or the most volumizing mascara on the market, or the mystery of a Diva Cup, or best tips before going on a first date after exchanging 3.5 emails and 2 text messages. In the midst of all that, we somehow manage to stumble upon some of life’s biggest challenges, and—here’s where the real perk comes in—we talk it out! Like how to survive a really tough boss at work, or when to start looking for a new job, or what to even do when you think you should be doing something else in life, but you don’t know what. We talk about what we’re praying for and we wonder why some prayers are answered and some aren’t. We talk about our families, our dreams and some of our biggest fears and heartbreaks. And like any good friend would do, we’re there to offer hugs, prayers, and a good sense of humor. It’s really a beautiful thing.

And although I’ve just described my current Girls Night routine, I can speak from many years of experience…Girls Nights can come in a lot of different shapes and sizes. For me, they date back to high school, when the Shlumpas would get together and watch Dirty Dancing with a bowl of cookie dough and red vines to snack on…and then we’d go TP a house down the street. When I lived with two of my best friends at the ole Shell Shack, I had “built in” Girls Night nearly every night of the week—sharing dinner, a bottle of wine, and always an amazing Shell Beach sunset!  I’ve also had Girls Mornings, meeting up at the neighborhood coffee shop once a week before work. All of these sweet girl times have been incredible blessings and seriously fun!

As matter of fact, after I moved to the Bay Area, it was one of the first things I started praying for. I mean, I wasn’t praying for Girls Nights exactly, but I was praying for amazing, fun, encouraging girl friends. And sure enough, God answered my prayers with more than I could ask or imagine.

Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine,

according to his power that is at work within us…

Ephesians 3:20



  1. I basically just devoured this blog entry and am feeling so happy and satisfied and grateful that I get to have a Girls Night with YOU! God is so good. Thanks for putting my thoughts into a beautifully written piece!

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